Today is ‘Hump Day’ the middle of the week. A lot has probably happened to all of us. As we get closer to the weekend and begin to focus our thoughts on all things more positive and weekend oriented, let us make one more important change. The change I am speaking of is mentioned in the picture above. Instead of claiming to be broken and helpless, switch that mindset to growing and healing.
This may seem like an inconsequential change, but it will create a brand-new lifestyle. When we focus on what is wrong in our life, or how it has damaged us, we bring ourselves down. Doing this repeatedly can leave us feeling helpless. Nothing could be further from the truth! Yes, we have all been hurt and many of those hurts can leave us damaged emotionally, spiritually, or even physically. That we cannot control. What we have complete control over is what these scars mean to us.
Being in a victim mode can lead us to think that our scars make us ugly and damaged. In contrast, when we switch our mentality to understand we are growing and healing, then we realize our scars are badges of honor. They show the world, and even more important ourselves, that we have made it through some really tough situations. It also gives us a measure of credibility to help those who might be going through the same things.
Another thing we do that will leave us feeling like a victim is assigning blame on others. “It is their fault that I am ____” Really? If that is the case and you let others control your state of well-being you will always feel helpless. Instead realize that while others may make us angry/sad/hurt or a million other unpleasant emotions, choosing to stay in those emotions is a choice we make. Instead, try this thought on for size, “This person really upset me, but because of that I am now a stronger and more determined person than I was before.” or one of my favorites, “I reacted to you and allowed my emotions to get the best of me in the moment. Now I shall use that to motivate me to take control of my own emotional state and become an even stronger and better person. Thank you.” Feel free to create your own. In fact, I am always on the lookout for new affirmations in this arena and would love to hear what works for you!


  1. This was such an excellent article! One of my very favorites for sure! The song St. Elmo’s Fire really speaks a lot to me, especially since on my recent trip to visit a friend in KY, it became my responsibility to keep the fire in the wood stove going, and how on my way there I passed St Elmo Road. There’s a line in the song that says, “you broke the boy in me, but you won’t break the man”. It just fits so in line with your post today, that things can be done to us that are out of our control, but it’s our responsibility to heal and to move on and not let it define us.

    Another thing that helps me is a Scripture- Micah 7:8, which says, “Rejoice not against me, oh my enemy, for when I fall I shall arise: when I sit in darkness, the Lord will be a light unto me.”

    Something that has helped me when I am hurt by someone is to understand that the issue is with them. As hard as it might be, it’s so important that we don’t take these things personal because it truly has nothing to do with us: they most likely hurt other people in the same way. It helps me to be able to pray for them and for their healing as well. Hurting people hurt people.

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