I came across this sign on one of my daily walks. As I gazed across the baseball diamond behind the sign I saw children playing, laughing and having a good time.

This had me feeling reflective. I thought of my childhood days playing baseball. It started in T- ball where you hit a ball off of a stand. That was when I was very young. Then it went to pee-wee baseball, which is just as it sounds.

As I thought about these times the memories came flooding back. I could remember McKinley field the place we played. I remember the shirts we would get and how proud I was to wear it. I could even see the dusty field, feel the warm sun on my skin and taste the ice cream we had after games.

Do you know what I could not remember no matter how hard I tried? How many games we won or lost. I’m not sure whether they didn’t stress that for young children or if it just didn’t matter to me at that point in my life. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle.

It wasn’t until I’m thinking middle school that I remotely remember noticing and caring if I won or not. The ironic thing about that is my memories of that period are both up and down, depending on if I won or not. Whereas the memories of the early period when winning did not matter were all of the joy of merely playing.

That logic I can apply to my life now. If I have a book signing and nobody comes, if my seminar turnout is not what I hoped, I need to find the joy in the experience.

In your life, whether business, love or just life, search for the joy on being. Do not look for the win, look for the love.


  1. I heard something a long time ago, “If you don’t love yourself, you won’t know how to love someone else.” I think that the word love is thrown around too much and can have different meanings to different people. In your instance Neil, I think you are comfortable in your “own skin” and therefore you can find the love in the simplest things. You don’t sweat the small stuff, but find joy in working to attain a higher meaning in an experience. With your personality and personal ethics and values, you can love by giving of yourself! That is worth it’s weight in gold!

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    1. I couldn’t agree with you more on the point of loving by giving of yourself. Many people are concerned about the best way to love someone. Truly the best way is by giving of yourself. That is the most valuable gift of all.


    2. I have been thinking a little bit more about this post and I was reminded of the lessons you taught your children and grandchildren on walks. Showing them nature and picking up litter. You are and have been such a positive influence on so many.


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