Charm… charisma… mojo… there is many names for it. What is the secret of folks who seem to possess it is vast quantity? What do they all have in common?

Confidence. I recall a commercial for the aftershave skin bracer in which the actor Jack Palance utters the phrase “confidence is sexy, don’t you think?” Truth is, confidence really is sexy.

Let us take a good look at what genuine confidence is not. It is not the false bravado some people use to cover up their insecurity. It is not arrogance or other boreish behavior.

So what is confidence? It is appreciating the true fabulous nature inside each and every one of us. What if you find yourself drawing a blank when it comes to what is great about you. Would you feel better if you won a life and death contest where the odds were one billion to one you would lose? Guess what? You have. Roughly one billion sperm fight to fertilize the egg. The winning combination was you!

There are many other things. Some of us are good talkers, others are good listeners. Some are great storytellers, some are good singers. Some are high energy, some very relaxed. Confident people focus on their skills while knowing their weaknesses.

Another important trait of confident people is the desire to want everyone to win. If you love who you are, you should want your neighbor to feel the same. It is only insecure people who would like to see others fail.

Focus on your strengths. Realize what a miracle you are. Be confident! It’s sexy don’t you think?

4 thoughts on “YOUR FIRST LOVE

  1. Another great point – confidence. I don’t know about sexy, but knowing someone with confidence is great. They won’t get offended if you say something that sounds offensive when it wasn’t meant to be. You are right we should concentrate on our strengths, not our weaknesses. Great article, great read.

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  2. Actually Neil, I don’t find confidence sexy at all. The confidence a person exhibits is desirable! Sex is all in the mind and really has nothing to do with confidence. The confidence a person has shows in their smile, not just with their mouth, but also their eyes. Their confidence in themselves embraces a kindness that another can feel in their whole being and gives another a sense of welcoming which will be desirable. The person may not have the perfect figure, if a woman, or be that manly man, but their aura is a lure to desirability. Sure, a model can look sexy, but does she have the confidence in herself to be “the one?”

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