If you aren’t stumbling you aren’t moving forward. This was the exact thought I shared with a friend who was dismayed at her attempts to get over a bad relationship and move forward. It was only after our conversation I realized the true power of what I had said. Think of any situation in life. Learning to play an instrument, starting a new job, all the way down to when we did first learn to walk. Did you just start slow and keep getting better? How did you get better? In every situation there was some stumbling, either literally in the last example or figuratively in the first two. By making mistakes we are moving forward. I often learn the most about people after we have a disagreement about something. I also learn the most and remember the best after I make a big mistake. Think of some of the most physical or emotionally painful things that have happened to you. There are usually followed by the phrase “I’ll never do that again”. To our credit, most of us don’t, with the glaring exception of celebrating too much on a Friday night. The truth is, quite often the more painful the lesson, the more powerful the lesson. Whenever we are trying to accomplish something great we will always suffer some measure of defeat. The ones who accomplish greatness are the ones who don’t let it stop them. So next time you catch yourself stumbling remember at least you are moving forward. It is not possible to stumble while standing still.