We left off last week discussing looking at all we have to be grateful for verses all that is wrong. We discussed how to do it with other people. We discussed how to do it with things and situations in our life. Now we are going to discuss one of the most important ways to apply this principle, with ourselves. I was hanging out with a very beautiful friend of mine the other night and out of the blue she says “I am so unattractive right now”. I set down my cup of coffee to try to figure out where this random statement came from. “Why?” was pretty much all I could muster. She went on to explain that she thinks nobody would find her attractive because in the last year she has gained 30 pounds. Now I would have never guessed that to be the case, but taking her at her word I asked her several questions. Do you like your make-up? How is your fashion sense? Do you always shower and try to look nice? With the exception of an occasional roll of the eyes she had to say yes to all of them. Just because we have one flaw does not make us a flawed person. We all have strengths, we all have weaknesses. What seems odd to me is as a culture we seem to address these issues backwards. Focusing all of our energy on our faults as we see them can only lead us to feeling inferior and depressed. Now I am not saying if you do have an issue to work on that you should ignore it, not at all. Work on it, but do not focus on it. We should do our best to focus on our strengths to use the natural skills we have to bring the maximum amount of greatness to the world. As we do we stand the best chance of helping others and our confidence will soar. Knowing how well we can do things will put us in a far better frame to address the concerns we have with the other aspects of our lives. Then when we look in the mirror and see those faults, just as we did with others we will understand it is the situation, not the person we are unhappy with.