“My creed is: Happiness is the only good. The place to be happy is here. The time to be happy is now. The way to be happy is to make others so.”
During breakfast the other day I was part of a conversation as to the obligation to keep company with people and situations that do not bring you joy. To me the notion that you should subject yourself to unpleasant situations merely because that person is your relative, or the situation is something ‘everyone expects you to be at’ is to me antiquated and ridiculous. So I am giving you all an excuse now. If the person or situation does not give you joy, don’t be around them. The reason here is really two-fold. First, we were given this life to enjoy. If you are not enjoying your life, you are wasting your life. Second, you can’t very well bring joy to others if you, yourself are not full of joy. I am not saying there are not people and moments that may be less than a thrill (the dentist comes to mind for me) but if you have honestly done your best to bring joy to the situation and it does not seem to be taking hold, then it is not in line with you living a positive rewarding life. To suffer through an evening with relatives or people you do not enjoy merely out of a sense of obligation does nobody any good. It does not bring joy to the people you are with as it is usually apparent you are not enjoying yourself. Not to mention the joy you could be having and experiencing with good friends. So next time you find yourself dreading another situation ask yourself if you are doing it merely because you feel obligated, and will your presence there do any good? If that is indeed the case, my suggestion is to politely excuse yourself and treat yourself to an evening of fun. Whatever you do, feeling guilty should not be it. Remember if it doesn’t bring you joy, it certainly won’t bring others joy either.