Tag: self-improvement

DO NOT TRUST THE EXPERTS! 🚫

It is amazing to me how many people turn their lives over to people who consider themselves experts. I have a problem trusting the important issues in my life to the experts. Take my health for example. If you ask my doctor, he will be the first to tell you, I ask a lot of questions. This should not surprise anyone who knows me personally. It is not that I do not value his years of study and experience in the field of health, I certainly do. Still, all of us can have bias and be tainted by our experiences. No single person can know everything.

The reason that I am bringing this up today, is that I was reminded of it listening to an interview with Kobe Bryant. If, for some reason, you are unaware who Kobe Bryant is, allow me to give you the briefest of recaps. He was a professional basketball player that played 20 years for the Los Angeles Lakers. He won five championships and had many amazing performances along the way. Can you guess what his high school guidance counselor told him? “Give up that basketball dream. It will never work out for you.” This was somebody who was an ‘expert’ in guiding children. To the counselor’s credit, the year before, Kobe had played an entire season of basketball and did not score one single point. Here is a player who hold hold the record for most points scored in a single NBA game (81) and he played an entire season without scoring a single point. Fortunately, Kobe did not listen to the experts.

In my own life, I had a similar story. My senior year in high school I almost did not pass English class. It was of no interest to me. What kind of verb is this? I really did not care. I loved history and science. I was good at math. Socializing, that is what I really excelled at in high school. English class? Not so much. The last day of school my fabulous teacher leaned over my desk and stated in no uncertain terms, “I pray to God you will never have a career in writing.” Several years later, here we are working on book number 4! At the time, like Kobe and his scoreless season, I would not have argued with her. Although I am not the Kobe Bryant of authors…yet, I still use my craft to both educate and entertain many.

In your life, I urge you not to blindly trust the experts. Sure, take what they say with the weight it deserves, but do your own research and ask your own questions. Nobody should care more about your health, your happiness and your success than you. Act accordingly.

MY NEW TITLE COULD BE YOURS AS WELL 👏

This charming fellow is a sherpa. If you do not know what they do, they help you carry your stuff up a mountain, so you can worry about doing other things, like say, climbing a mountain. They go with you on your journey. They help carry the supplies you might need at any given time. Sherpas usually have a good deal of knowledge when it comes to the trails and journeys that they travel. Can you imagine how great it would be to have a sherpa throughout your life? They would carry all of the supplies and you would just have to focus on making it through the journey.

This past Tuesday, I had the honor of being a guest on the Mind, Body, Abundance Show. One of the hosts, Charlene, said a phrase I really enjoyed. She referred to herself as a ‘shift sherpa’. Many of us in the self-improvement field could apply this title. We follow you on your journey via a book, website or YouTube video. We share tools and strategies that you can use as you navigate your journey. That is what we do here. You can take Secret2anamazinglife with you as you journey through life. We will offer tools and carry them for you as you need them.

How about you? Are you a sherpa? Before you think that you have to help climb Mount Everest, or even be involved in the self-improvement field, let me assure you that you do not. All of us could use a sherpa in our lives. It doesn’t have to be the tools of self-improvement. It can be to help carry the burdens of life for family and friends. It can be to share our stories and experiences to help others survive, and even thrive, in their journey. A sherpa doesn’t have to stay for the whole journey. They are there to help along some of the toughest paths. How valuable do you think that would be?

In life, let us all be sherpas for those we care about. Let us help carry the burdens we all go through. Eventually, we will need a sherpa in our life when the journey seems too hard and our load seems too heavy. If we all help each other carry the load of life, it will be a lot lighter for all of us.

GET RICH QUICK! 💵

These days it seems everyone is working to get rich and famous. From side hustles, to an attempt to go viral, it would seem that we are all chasing the brass ring. To this end, many people wish to use the Law of Attraction, or as it has become known, the secret. One of the most important aspects of this law is that you must be what you wish to attract. This gives many people, including myself, a headache trying to figure out.

When thinking about gaining wealth and fame, the question becomes, “How can I be and/or feel wealthy, when my circumstances would have me feeling the opposite.” With the price of everything from heat to groceries going up, that is certainly understandable. The ‘secret’ is contained in something we touched on a few posts ago. Our control is not in bending outside circumstances to our will, but working on the circumstances that exist between our own ears.

How can you feel wealthy with all of the bills coming in and the paycheck not getting larger? By focusing on all that you do have. This may sound cliche or positive thinking to many of you. In a way I suppose it is. That does not change that fact that it works. A brief glance at the world around us will remind us of how much we all have to be thankful for. Take our health for example. Even if it is not perfect at the moment, it certainly could be worse. Our friends are another source of wealth. We may wish we had more, or saw the ones we have more often, but the fact is having friends is a great form of wealth.

There are a million things from a roof over our heads, running water to access to the internet to read something like this, that we should be grateful for. Our lives are filled with so many blessings that often go overlooked. Spending as little as five minutes a day focusing on all we have to be grateful for can transform our lives. It can take us to living a life of lack, to living one of abundance. Don’t trust me, prove it to yourself by trying this today.

LIVE IMMEDIATELY! 😊

How many times do we hear people say things such as, “When ____ happens, then I will be happy.” Sure, the accomplishment of certain goals may bring us satisfaction. I know that being able to spend time in the Bahamas with the woman I love will bring me a great amount of joy. Here is a question, what if these things don’t happen? Life can be crazy. Corona virus showed us that. Who would have thought the world would shut down in a matter of weeks? I didn’t have that on my calendar. My trip could be canceled or postponed due to a hurricane or problems with the airplane. As the quote above eludes to, the future is uncertain.

The best assurance we have of an amazing life is not to plan our future, although that is a good idea. No, the best way to guarantee an amazing life is to live as fully as we are able in the present. Love those we love to the best of our ability. Try that new food, go on that trip, have coffee with that friend. The one torture that the uncertainty of the future can convey is the feeling of regret. We only have one life and it is forever growing shorter. We should do our best to get ever drop of joy out of it that we can.

Live your life today! Do not tie your happiness to an event. Find ways to celebrate today while looking forward to tomorrow. Enjoy the journey while getting closer to the destination. That is the secret to an amazing life.

WHERE YOUR POWER IS ✊️

How many of us have took a hit from life and have been left feeling totally helpless? I know I have. We can hear ourselves saying, “Look what happened to me. It is not my fault!” You would be right. Getting knocked down is not our fault. It is also usually beyond our control to some extent. What is in our control is whether we stay down or not. Events may be beyond our control, but how we respond to them is 100% in our control.

Realize that we have control over our mind and not outside events. If we use our energy to try and control outside events, that is a fool’s errand. If, however, we put that same time and energy towards strengthening our mind, which we have control over, than we are making a solid investment with our time and energy. Work on improving your ability to respond intelligently. Work on practicing patience and objectivity. These are where your strength is and it is also where your best chance to impact outside events occurs.

Today, make an investment in your inner world and cease being so concerned with controlling your outside world. This is often beyond our control. We can control our minds. It is in this endeavor that we should put all of our efforts toward.

WHO IS THIS PERSON?⁉️

There is one activity that I believe we could all benefit by doing. This one activity alone could not only change our life, but the way we approach the world in general. Enough people did this, we would change the world. It does not matter if you live in Uganda, Fiji, The Bahamas or right here in Wisconsin where I do. This activity will work no matter what your gender, race, religion or political belief. It is not an expensive or complicated activity. You can spend as long as you like on it. Although, the secret is, the more time you spend on it, and the more often you do it, the more effective it will become. This activity can help you make better choices and help bring clarity to the choices you have to make. It can help you pick a career that suits you as well as a romantic partner that will best meet your needs.

This activity is introspection. As unexciting as that may sound, it is a skill not many people, if any, master today. Do not believe me? Look at anyone waiting in any kind of line. What are they doing? You know the answer to this one. They are on their phone. Sitting alone at a coffee shop? On the computer or phone. There is very little getting out in nature and spending time thinking about who we really are. We chose jobs based on money or advice from others. We chose romantic partners based on looks or charm. How many of us sit and write down a list of our most important values and what our goals are? How many of us really have a clear picture of who we are?

When you know what is important to you, your time is well spent. When you know what your goals are, you know what direction to move in. When you know this, you know what decisions to make. If you don’t know the first thing about the person in the mirror, these decisions can seem very complicated and confusing. Life will be more stressful. How much easier would your life be if you know exactly who you were, what was important to you and what goals you were chasing?

This week, spend some time really getting to know the person in the mirror. It will allow you to perform well above the average person. In addition, it will remove a lot of stress from your decisions and your life. Gaining clarity and your values and your self-identity is like spending time digging in a vein of pure gold. You may be surprised at what you discover when you investigate the most interesting person in the world – the one in the mirror.

THE SIZE OF YOUR STONES 🪨

Almost the end of January. How are those New Year’s resolutions coming along? According to the University of Scranton, 80% of us have forgotten ours by January 12th. If you have already found yourself unable to keep up with the lofty goals you imagined around the first of the month, fear not. It is time to tackle those once again. This time, perhaps a little more intelligently.

One of the main issues with keeping up with our lofty goals is just that, they are too lofty. As the quote above says, “If you want to move a mountain, start with small stones.” Is your goal to eat healthy in the new year? Start with adding one healthy meal to your day. That will leave less room for junk food. You can slowly work that up to two meals or more as you gain momentum.

Many people do this when it comes to working out. The gyms are packed on January first, and deserted by the first of the following month. You can’t go from binge watching television and eating pizza every day to working out three times a week and running on weekends. It is just not sustainable. Instead, start with a walk after dinner. Do that three times a week. Once a week try taking the stairs instead of the elevator. Even easier, try parking a little further away from the store and getting a few extra steps that way. Many of you may be thinking “That will not give me the results I am looking for.” You may be right, but neither will working out for less than a month and quitting. What you need to do is build up a habit and momentum. That is made a lot easier if it is not so painful. If you are left feeling like you could do more, that is great. You can and will do more, just give it time.

Whether you are struggling to maintain your resolution or have just given up on it all together. It is time to start a new. This time start moving that mountain by picking up small stones. Just like the literal translation of this metaphor, you will gain strength that will allow you to pick up bigger and bigger stones as the year progresses. Give yourself the best chance for success. Start small and think big!

YOU ARE NEVER TOO IMPORTANT 🤔

Many things confuse my simple brain. For example, why do people so often trash public restrooms? Do they suddenly fly into a fit of rage when relieving themselves? Personally, that is when I tend to be the happiest. Maybe it is because there is no cameras in restrooms so they feel they can commit their crime without consequence? Anyone who understands the laws of the universe will realize how foolish that line of thinking is.

The other great question I have is why some people begin to treat others harshly when given a position of power? This really should be the opposite of what happens. With great reward comes great responsibility. Whether influence or power, we should use it for good. The more you have of either of those, the greater the opportunity you have to use them for good. There is never a time that you become important enough that kindness ceases to be a requirement. Quite the opposite is true. When you become more famous, or powerful, you have others looking up to you. It is then that your kindness can be appreciated by others.

When I become a famous best-selling author, I look forward to being able to help and inspire many others to do the same. I am doing that on a smaller scale now. That is another important fact that I do not happen to have a sign for. It is never too early to start practicing kindness. If you want to be charitable and think you have to wait until you win the lottery, that is simply not so. Donating a dime out of a dollar can be even more meaningful than a million out of ten million.

The takeaway today is this – it is never too early, and you are never too important to be kind. Be kind to everyone and everything you meet today. It will not only make the world a better place, especially for those you are kind too, but it will make your own heart a little happier and your own spirit a little brighter.

THE MEANING OF LIFE ☕️

One of my favorite poets hitting on a very important point. What does planting trees have to do with the meaning of life? Plenty! What our poet friend from India is saying here, is that doing things for the greater good that we may neither see the benefit of, or get the credit for, is what the true meaning of life is all about. That is the meaning of our lives. To give something to this planet that will leave it a better place than when you arrived. Even if it is a seemingly small thing. In fact, there is a sure fire way to not only leave the world a better place, but to enjoy your time doing it.

The best way to leave the world a better place, is to live your purpose. As the picture above states, it is not what you do to bring home your paycheck. No, your purpose is what fills your being with pure joy. When we are in our bliss, we are happy people. How do you think happy people treat others and the world around them? Very well. People who are living their purpose do not start wars. They do not even start arguments. They are too busy creating, enjoying and living what fills their spirit with joy. Think of things that make you smile. Do more of that. In doing so, you will be planting that tree for tomorrow.

Between our poet from India, and the quote above, we have a good idea about how to leave the world a much better place. Doing things for others, and for the entire human race, that you may never see the result of is a start. Living your purpose is another great strategy. I know when I am writing it puts me in a good mood. Notice I said writing and not editing. Maybe your passion is cooking? Maybe it is spending time in nature? Maybe it is running? Whatever your passion is, do it as often as you can. What will help the world heal the quickest is having as many people living their purpose as we can.

BUSY YOURSELF WITH THIS! 📇

I once heard someone ask the question, “Do you think Michael Jordan would have let comments on Twitter?” The point being that people like Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant in the sports world, and investors like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates in the business world, are too busy working on their own lives to concern themselves much with the opinions of others. If you have time to be upset for hours, maybe even days or longer, with what someone else is doing, or maybe even said, your life could use some more attention.

When I am in the middle of constructing my next book, which I am about 2 weeks overdue starting, I seldom have time for much else. When I am working on putting together a seminar, or what I am going to say on a television appearance, like I will be shortly, it does not bother me what Bob or Betty are doing with their lives. Why should it bother me anyway? My life has so much opportunity for growth and improvement, every second I do not spend doing that, is one more mine of gold I am not tapping. I am not so much worrying about Bob and Betty as I am not worrying about Neil. That is far more costly.

This week as we go forth into our working world, let us keep the focus where it should remain, on our world and improving our lives. It is only then that we will discover the secrets to an amazing life.