One of the most unfounded fears in our society today is this, the fear of being wrong. It amazes me the great lengths some people will go to in order to not have to admit they were wrong. Let us be honest, raise your hand if you have ever made a mistake. I’m sure that almost all of us reading this, and the one writing this have their hand in the air. Ok, now put it down because if you are staring at your computer with one hand in the air people may begin to point and whisper. So what is the point here? We are all aware that everyone has made mistakes and that we are not the first one. So why the big fear of admitting it? Some people are afraid it will make them appear less intelligent. I have even heard it mentioned that some people feel inferior to others when they are wrong. Well today we are not going to discuss how to get rid of those feelings. We instead are going to focus on why being wrong can be such a good thing. Let me begin by sharing a story from my own life. One of the many times I was wrong was when I was asked by the owner of the bar I work at if we should bring in karaoke. Now, I first let him know it is his bar and I would respect any decision he made. That being said, I was dead set against it. I pictures having to listen to hours of the worst singers I have ever heard. I thought every Friday was going to be like the first night of the TV show American Idol. Not only that, every karaoke show I have seen was led by a man who seemed half used car sales man, half Las Vegas lounge act. Showing how much my opinion mattered, or how set in his mind he was, we started karaoke. We also started it on Friday, the only night of the week I am behind the bar. Well, I will be the first to admit how wrong I was. Starting with the singers. They are some of the most fun and passionate people I have had the honor of meeting. A few of them have gone on to become friends. The terrible screeching I feared is more the exception than the rule. Business has picked up, as has the atmosphere of the bar. The people who run the karaoke? Not only do they not try to sell me cars, they are some of the most creative and fun people I have had the honor of working with. They also truly care about the people who come to sing with them.
Here is the point of that story. If I had been right, there would have been no pick up in business. My ear drums would probably be bleeding right now, and I would have lost out on working with and meeting some of the most amazing people I have met in a truly long time.
When we are wrong, it frees us up to consider life in a whole new light. The greater the conviction we had about what we were wrong about, the more freedom and freshness it can bring to our lives. Sometimes I say to myself “if I was wrong about this, what else could I be wrong about?”. So just remember, don’t always be so afraid to admit you are wrong. It can turn out to be one of the greatest blessings, and bring a whole new look to life. Also remember that others share your same fear of being wrong. So when a friend, spouse or co-worker find themselves to be incorrect, be encouraging and inspiring. Just remember, being wrong can actually be something worth celebrating. I am reminded of that every Friday!