This may sound like a rather silly question. I hear lots of you saying “I’m Bob, I’m Mary”. No, that is your name. I am talking about your identity. Who we are is how we define ourselves. So I ask you again, who are you? Notice what is the first thing that comes to your mind? For a lot of us, it is our occupation. We may not realize it, but we often identify ourselves by where we work or what kind of work we do. Especially if we have done that job for a while. I learned this the hard way. After giving the postal service 15 great years, I was faced with the real prospect of losing my position for nothing more than office politics. Suddenly I felt like, “Now what? What will happen to me?” Those feelings of fear were because after so many years I identified myself as ‘Neil the postal worker’. Lucky for me I had a few friends I could talk to who knew me before I worked for the postal service. I had to ask Jason, Jenny, and Russ, my good friends, what was I like 16 years ago before the I started working there. After a few jokes about stress levels I came to realize there was a Neil before the United States Postal Service and there will be one after as well. Here we are a few years later and I find myself in the same situation. What is different now is I realize I am not my occupation. So who am I? More importantly, who are you? We are who we choose to define ourselves to be. I heard something recently that may help to show the example I am trying to get at. “There is a great difference between doing something stupid, feeling stupid, and being stupid” We have all done something stupid in our lives. Some more than others. We have all felt stupid at times. When we say we are stupid, that creates a whole different mentality. If you say you are stupid, or overweight, or lazy, whatever term you use it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I’m really good at this for saying “I am a procrastinator”. Now if I hold that as a belief or even more so as a conviction, my actions will have to be in line with that identity. So really think how you define yourself. Take a moment to write a few beliefs about yourself that you hold. See which ones serve you and which do not. If you are like me and have one or two that may be holding you back it is time to switch them up. Write down the person you wish to become. Carry it with you and read it throughout the day. At first it may seem like you are lying to yourself especially if it is the opposite of what you currently believe to be true of yourself. Stick with it. You didn’t develop the beliefs you have about yourself overnight and you are not going to change them overnight either. So let us all redefine ourselves and become the people we desire to be!
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A bartender and Postal worker by trade I was witness to the overwhelming negativity that is so common in todays society. A firm believer in the motto "Better to light a candle than curse the darkness" I created this site to bring some of the positivity back into the world and share with otheres. View all posts by drrock00