There are times when living a positive life may seem impossible and may even need to be put on hold. When we must walk a balance of supporting others while shouldering our own share of the grief.

One of the most challenging moments we can have in our lives is the loss of a loved one.  We look for anything and everything we can to heal the pain.  It has been my experience that only time can do that.  There are a few things that help keep my spirit going on when faced with such a situation.  First, it is to cling to and remind those you are still fortunate enough to have in your life in the physical realm.  Remind them how much you love them.  Even better if given any opportunity show them.  Remember too that it is only in the physical plain that you are separated. I am not here to speak to any after life or what one may believe, but our loved ones always live on in our hearts and in our memories. When my cousin was taken at the young age of 22 a few years ago right before christmas all of the other cousins, including myself and a few others who don’t even smoke, enjoyed one of his favorite cigars in his honor.  Well this may sound silly to some I think it helped us all feel a little closer to him.  Now, here is something I try to do that also really seems to help.  Each one of us brings their own light into the world.  I know my grandmother used to be the perfect hostess and loved playing card games with the rest of the family.  When she passed away that left a hole in the family.  To this day when the family is together I always try to make sure everyone has a cup of coffee or whatever they need.  Not to mention I love playing card games with everyone.  So be it a game of cards, or a terrific sense of humor, remember when we loose a loved one it is our duty, honor and privilege to let them live on by trying to keep the light they brought to the world burning, both in our hearts and for others to see.


dedicated to my dear friend Lory, you will always be missed and never be forgoten.

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