Tag: Kindness

SPEAK THROUGH THE 3 GATES

This is a great litmus test to put our words through. How many times a day do we let something escape our lips that we shouldn’t? Having these 3 questions in mind would help prevent that from happening. Remember you cannot unsay something.

How do we keep these questions front and center? Use this picture as your screensaver, pertain jot them down on an index card you carry with you. Then, put it into practice. Try doing this just for a conversation here and there. Eventually, it well become a way of not only speaking, but thinking as well.

So you don’t feel too down on yourself when you first try this, allow me to share my experience. I tried this at work and all I can say is “wow!” I never realized how many useless negative things I say there! Even someone who writes positivity for a living! Although a bit taken aback, I was excited. There is so much room for me to improve my conversation skills.

Try this yourself. I’m about to meet a friend for coffee and am going to try again. I think you will notice different people bring out different conversations. I would love to hear your experience as well!

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ONE OF THE MOST DIFFICULT THINGS TO DO

To me this is one of the most difficult things in life to accomplish. Someone cuts you off in traffic and almost causes an accident. How do you not launch into a monologue that would make a sailor blush? A person is always negative and unpleasant, why waste any of your positive energy on them?

I find there are several reasons why you might want to do this, but I will focus on two of them for brevity. First is obvious and altruistic reason – they need it. Perhaps their angst is caused by people giving it to them as well and your kindness could turn their world around. Perhaps your kind words could thaw a cold heart? Could turn a frown upside down?

All of these reasons lead us to our second reason. It is one of the greatest opportunities you may have to change the world. If you can turn an unpleasant person into a pleasant person, even if only for a moment that can have a ripple effect. Next time they are inclined to give someone a not so friendly greeting or response maybe they will think of the kind way in which you treated them. Maybe it will even have them feeling a little guilty for not passing it along. That is ok, whatever it takes to remove them from their created work of negativity.

With each and every soul we touch we become closer to a world that will be more loving for each and every one of us. Next time you see this person they may even remember how you treated them last time you saw each other and extend to  you a little more kindness thus making your world a little more sunny. So do it for yourself, do it for them and do it for the world. It will not be easy, but it sure will be worth it.

One more thing. Being able to do so will give you a great sense of accomplishment. You will leave with a better feeling about yourself as well as a sense of pride.

THE POWER OF ONE…

I am a big fan of simple random acts of kindness.  I am also a fan of surrounding myself with positive books, cds and other inspirational items to be enjoyed at any given moment.  That is why I am happy to tell you about the book ‘The Power of One’ by Steve Maraboli.  In this fabulous book there is simply 365 things to try to bring kindness to the world.  Presumably one per day of the year.  Of course you could do more than one a day, or do one a week.  The important point here is that there are several good ideas for bringing kindness to others.  If you are unable to find or afford this book, fear not, I am going to be sharing a few of these ideas in the coming days.  I do recommend picking up a copy of you are able to as it is also sprinkled with great uplifting quotes and inspiration.  The principle the book is based on is ‘one kind gesture, one person at a time, one day at a time’  It may seem like a small idea until you realize how many ‘ones’ you see every day.  Imagine if every person you saw on any given day would do just one kind thing and you can begin to get an appreciation for the power of this idea.  Speaking of ideas it may also be fun to form a list of your own ideas. Simple ideas of selfless kindness you can do for others.  You’ll be amazed at the power of one, especially when you realize the one is you.