Don’t ask what if I fail. You will. A better question is when I fail, then what? This may not seem to positive at first glance, telling you that you are going to fail and all. Still, failure is only absolute if we learn nothing from it. Believe me when I tell you I was as guilty as anyone of being afraid of failure. I was especially afraid to try new things for the fear I may fail. Then I realized that by being a slave to my fear I was failing to try. Plus, what is the worst thing about failing? People laughing at you? Well first of all that seldom happens, we all have failed and know what it is like. Feeling like a failure? This is something that happens internally. We must understand failure is a lesson. Instead of becoming depressed we must learn to become curious. Why did I not succeed? What can I learn from this experience? These questions actually give us power when we do fall short and give us valuable lessons to move us forward. In fact failure is one of the best teachers. So when you fail realize you just became smarter. Like a lot of other things in life, the secret is learning to use failure, not letting failure use you. So this weekend when things do not go your way, get excited! Ask yourself what you can learn to make your future brighter and to limit or eliminate this sort of challenge from occurring again.
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KEEP STUMBLING
If you aren’t stumbling you aren’t moving forward. This was the exact thought I shared with a friend who was dismayed at her attempts to get over a bad relationship and move forward. It was only after our conversation I realized the true power of what I had said. Think of any situation in life. Learning to play an instrument, starting a new job, all the way down to when we did first learn to walk. Did you just start slow and keep getting better? How did you get better? In every situation there was some stumbling, either literally in the last example or figuratively in the first two. By making mistakes we are moving forward. I often learn the most about people after we have a disagreement about something. I also learn the most and remember the best after I make a big mistake. Think of some of the most physical or emotionally painful things that have happened to you. There are usually followed by the phrase “I’ll never do that again”. To our credit, most of us don’t, with the glaring exception of celebrating too much on a Friday night. The truth is, quite often the more painful the lesson, the more powerful the lesson. Whenever we are trying to accomplish something great we will always suffer some measure of defeat. The ones who accomplish greatness are the ones who don’t let it stop them. So next time you catch yourself stumbling remember at least you are moving forward. It is not possible to stumble while standing still.
SECRET 2 AN AMAZING LIFE 