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TALKING TO YOURSELF

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Take a look at the above phrases. Which do you use most often? Try starting at the 0% “i won’t” and say each phrase out loud. Notice how each makes you feel. Does one make you feel like you have no control while another makes you feel strong? Notice if your posture changes as the phrases do.
Now, take this exercise one step further. Say them out loud again, but this time pick a goal you are aspiring to achieve and put it after each phrase. Note how you feel about your goal after each one.
This should show you the power of your inner dialog.
So how can we put this to use for us?  Pick the phrase that makes you feel the most positive and powerful about your goal. Write it down. Now carry it with you and repeat it to yourself as often as you can. Try to do at least some of them out loud. Say it with conviction. It is very difficult to account for the often negative inner conversation we may have, but this goes a long way to counteract it. Try this for a week and notice how much better and in control you feel

A NIGHT IN THE EMERGENCY ROOM

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Sorry for my appearance in this photo.c it was a very rough night. In the darkness, however, the stars really came to shine. First the 911 responders Jason,  Tyson and Chris could not have been better. Their skill, humor and genuine concern kept me calm and got me to the hospital in short order. Nurse Jacque and Dr Andy worked together flawlessly.  Their smiles made the pain easier to bare. Even Linda who had the task of my xrays was very professional. 
Then having great friends like Terri and Nathaniel to help get me home safe was so kind.  All this happened while the love of my life held my hand and kept her sweet little cute face in mine. It’s strange, in the worst of situations you can find the most reasons to be grateful.  I thank and love you all!

TRAGEDY IN FRANCE

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Normally on this blog I feature videos on the weekend, and one will be coming tomorrow, but I feel the need to address yesterday’s events in France. When a senseless violent act occurs like happened to our brothers and sisters in Paris we are left asking ourselves questions like “why?” and “how?” i think our inability to understand comes from the fact that there is no reason for this kind of violence. We cannot understand it, because it cannot be understood. Yes, it can be explained. Motives can be put forth, questions surrounding the mental states of those committing this horrible act can be questioned, but even with all the answers trying to understand how we can continue to do this to one another is beyond comprehension.
To me is screams a sense of urgency. Both on a personal and national level. We cannot wait to strive for more understanding of our fellow brothers and sisters. We cannot wait to develop more compassion. We cannot wait to erase the prejudice and judgments of the past. The time is not tomorrow, the time is now. Do what you can to do this in your community, but do everything you can to do it in yourself. We are all victims of what happened in France. It makes all of our world a darker place. Mr Rogers spoke of seeing the helpers. I am going to take it one step further, it is time to be the helper. How? Do what we talked about above. Support organizations that being people together. Be a voice for peace and change. Most of all be so in your heart. Treat all you meet with love and compassion. If yesterday’s events taught us anything, it taught us we cannot wait!

IN A MONTH OF THANKFULNESS

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As you can see today marks three years i have been sharing my website with all of my friends. I am so grateful to say that I am followed in over 60 countries on 6 continents. That is such a gift as it allows me to share all of what I have learned and continue to learn with friends on a global scale. I have met and spoken with people around the world. We have shared ideas and encourage each other. My promise to you is that I shall keep sharing all the secrets I learn to living an amazing life. Once again, thank you for three great years and I look forward to the next three!

IT IS ONLY 60 SECONDS

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This is one of my favorite quotes. It in a way speaks to Newton’s law of cause and effect.  For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.
In this case when we choose to express the emotion of anger we are also choosing not to express feelings of love, forgiveness, compassion, understanding and lots of other more productive emotions we could choose. Also every moment we are living in feelings like sadness, anger or a host of other not so pleasant emotions we are not only living in pain for that moment we are also not loving in pleasure. I know in the moments there is some discord or misunderstanding in my household the goal is always to get back to love as soon as possible. Why is that so important? Because we know we are not only hurting the other person and quite often ourselves in the process, we are also not experiencing the glorious feeling of love. When you consider how truly fleeting time and life can be, then you understand the above quote that much more.
So do yourself a favor, when you are sad, or when you are upset feel that, learn from that, but do not live in that. Start to endeavor to climb out of that emotional hole with the lesson you learned and trade that minute of anger for 60 seconds of happiness.

KEEP IT SIMPLE

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Often times I am asked for my opinion on a wide variety of religious and spiritual practices. My general reply is those matters tend to be a personal matter best left up to the discretion of the individual. I firmly believe we are a entitled to believe as we do as long as it does not harm others. Speaking of others, as long as they are not harming us, i believe they have a right to believe as they wish free from our judgement or the judgement of others.
I support everyone’s beliefs even if they are different than mine. Still i ask myself how much better the world would be if we all followed the simple religion spoke of by the 16th president of the United States of America? 

FEED YOUR MIND

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I took this picture from a site called “metalmotivation.com” it brings up a very good point. Your mind, no matter how little it may be used, craves input material. Leave what goes in to chance and you are putting yourself at great risk. What do I mean by this? Think of the programing you hear on the radio or TV, a good portion of that is not to positive. Do you have anyone in your life that may be “sunshine challenged”? A coworker or friend perhaps? How about the talk around the office?
What I’m pointing out here is there are a lot of negative influences pouring into our minds every day. What can we do about it? My mantra has always been “the best way to decrease the negative is to increase the positive” so find some motivational material to feed your brain. I listen to some motivational cds on the way to work. When I am feeling a little lazy or unproductive i go to YouTube and search “motivational video” i recommend trying that. Give your brain something positive to chew on the next time the boss is chewing you out.

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IT IS WORSE THAN WASTING TIME

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I am a firm believer in the terrible effects of worry. Many things have been said about the practice of worry and I would like to share some with you now. Early on one of my favorite things I heard about worry is that it is like riding an exercise bike, you get really tired but do not go anywhere. Think of the productive aspect of worry, is there any? Another thing I have heard that I thought powerful was worry not only disturbs our present, but steals our future. It is true. If you spend your time in worry, you are taking time away from productive things you could be doing. The final two things I would like to share with you are this. According to Bob Marley, Complaining and worry are prayers to the devil. Also, worry is mentally rehearsing what we don’t want to happen. If you know anything about the law of attraction it is that thoughts become things, and if your thoughts are focused on that which you do not wish to happen you are giving that all of your energy.

Studies have proved that a full 90% of what we worry about are things we should not be. Things in the past that cannot be changed, useless petty worries and things of the like. So do yourself a favor, use worry to take all the action you can to prepare or address a situation and then let it go. You will lose that knot in your stomach. That feeling of dread and weight you carry around on your shoulders. Try to eliminate worry as much as you can this coming week and see how you feel.

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