“A man’s ego is as fragile as a woman’s heart.”
This line was relayed to me by a young lady named Samantha. Although it was mixed in with a few shots and cocktails it started me thinking. How many people put value on different things. This example is men versus women. As a general rule men do probably put more importance on their ego and women place greater stock in emotional issues. Even in this statement there are exceptions. Some men are very emotional. Some women are very proud. This doesn’t just hold true with different genders either. People of different faiths hold different things important. What one belief finds sacred, the other may not. Races and cultures have differences too. Add all this to an individual’s life experiences and it presents quite a unique make up.
So here is the bottom line. There is no way for us to know what may be held in high regard by another. What another person may find hurtful or demeaning. So how can we avoid a conflict or accidentally offending someone who is different from we are? Truth is you can’t. You can understand that even though what you said or did was no big deal to you, it may very well have been to them. So often I hear “Why are they upset? or Why should I apologize? I didn’t even really do anything” Understand if you upset someone you did something. True some people are more sensitive than others, but a lot of times there are things going on behind the scenes we really are unaware of.
It works the same way in reverse. What do I mean? Have you ever been having a bad day and someone says something to you, even in a joking manner, that really bothers you. It could have little to do with them and more the fact you were upset already. Understand most people don’t like to hurt others or be hurt. Strive to understand and be forgiving. It will not only make your life easier, but add to the lives of those around you.