Tag: Relationships

THE BEST CAREER FIELD 👨‍⚕️

I have written about this in the past. I may have even used this very picture. It remains as true now as it has ever been. With all of the divisive political rhetoric, people searching for the most direct path to fortune and fame, and the lack of significance many people feel, we need to embrace this little lesson above. It will not only address all of the issue mentioned previously, it will also make the world a better place as a whole.

Want to solve the great political divide? Be a decent human and accept other people might hold different opinions than you. Further more, those opinions could be right for them and their beliefs. Want to look for the quickest path to fame? Find a need and fill it. The more people you can serve, the more you will be in demand. Providing life hacks, inspiring and empowering people or just being encouraging are great ways to start. If you feel that you are not very important, or wish to be more valuable to those you care about and the world around you, be a wonderful human being. Be a good listener. Treat everyone with compassion and understanding. Uplift the spirits of everyone you come in contact with. Do all of these and your presence will be coveted by kings and peasants alike. Everyone loves someone who makes them feel like the special individual they are.

Lastly, filling the world with one more good human being benefits us all. It is a blessing for those you interact with and an example from those observing you. It is perhaps the most rewarding career field you can go into. As the photo above mentions, there is very little competition.

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1 THING YOU NEED TO OVERCOME 🦁

We touched on this a little last post. The one thing we must battle to overcome is the desire to quit. It can be so strong. When we face one thing after another that seems to go wrong it can seem impossible to keep going. One thing you must know is that all of us have felt it. Eric Thomas says something that has really helped me and I would like to share it with you. I am paraphrasing, but he says you have already been hurt, why not get a reward for it. I could not agree more. At the very least, give purpose to your pain.

It is a sick twist of irony that the closest we are to accomplishment is after we have made it through the greatest amount of pain and struggle. Sadly, that is also when our urge to quit becomes the greatest. Know that if you quit, it becomes a habit. That is the bad news. Once you start quitting, your resolve begins to decline. The good news is that the opposite is true. Once you persevere, you will and determination become stronger in all fields. If you quit every time you feel the urge to do so, your life will not amount to much. If you get up just one more time and conquer that urge to quit, your life will become the life of your dreams. When you have suffered and it feels like you are staring into the abyss, just remember if you give up then, your pain was for nothing. As Eric Thomas told us earlier, “You are already in pain. Get a reward for it.”

If there is one thing in life you should not give up on, that is yourself and your dreams. Your pain has come to strengthen you, not to defeat you.

YOU HAVE 2 OPTIONS ✌️

When it comes to our goals, proper mindset is a great deal of the challenge. Having the proper outlook can mean the difference between success and failure. I think having this simple quote printed out will assist us in persevering to the accomplishment of our goals. Giving ourselves two options – we will either find a way or make one. Did you notice that does not include giving up, throwing in the towel or any option other than success.

One of the greatest challenges in life can be our relationships. When they are not going well, the life can seem to be sucked out of us. Conversely, they are also the source of our biggest reward. When we are in love, nothing can bring us down. That is why giving ourselves these two options in relationships can be so beneficial. Do not even consider not being able to craft a loving, healthy and growth oriented relationship. Instead, say to yourself “I am going to find a way to get through this relationship challenge, or I will make one.” When you do not give yourself any other option than success, than success becomes your only option.

We looked at the example of relationships because they are one of the more powerful forces in our life. Imagine how many different areas of your life you can apply this to? Your health and fitness. You can apply it to your career. Give yourself these two options when it comes to your finances. Speak power and encouragement into all areas of your life and see what a difference it will make. I would keep this quote on a card that you can keep with you and look at it throughout the day. When it comes to being the best version of yourself, you will either find a way or you will make one.

IT IS BETTER TO BE THOUGHT A FOOL 🤡

What a great quote from Abraham Lincoln! In fact, my very first book, A Happy Life for Busy People, begins with a quote from this gent. Back to the quote at hand. How many of us know someone who seems to have something to say about everything? Worse yet, how many of us know someone who is under the impression they know everything? Worst of all is someone who has both of these beliefs.

I speak more than the average individual. It is actually tied to what I do for a living. Still, I know there are times when less is more. One of those times is when you do not have knowledge on the subject you are speaking of. With elections coming up in the United States, this will happen a lot more this year. People often confuse opinion with facts and end up looking foolish. Often, the smartest phrase to utter is “I don’t know.” It shows that you are self-confident enough to know that you do not know everything. Nobody does.

There is a gentleman in the self-improvement field who does this quite often. He has a degree in psychology and is quite knowledgeable when it comes to human behavior. This same gentleman often feels compelled to speak on things like climate change, politics and other avenues that he is not an expert on. I admire what he has to say in his field. He truly has some great expertise. When he speaks as if he has the same level of expertise in these other arenas, he ends up sounding foolish.

This week, let us keep the quote from Mr. Lincoln in mind. Let us fight the urge to have something to say on every subject. The creator did give us two ears and one mouth for a reason. That is to listen twice as much as we speak. Here is an added thought. When we listen we may learn something. When we are speaking, we are only repeating what we already know, or think we know.

NOBODY IS USELESS IN THIS WORLD 🌎

Old Charlie brings up a really good point here. Everyone wants to be useful. One of the six basic needs is a feeling of significance. A quick and easy way to be useful is to do something to help out someone else. It improves the lives of both you and the person you are helping. It is a two for one! What a better way to improve your life, someone else’s life and feel useful. If one out of every ten people decided to do this, that would be roughly one billion people doing something to help lighten the burden of another! That would positively affect the lives of two billion people! Can you imagine how powerful that would be?

If you want your life to have a greater level of importance, it does not take more likes on social media. You do not have to be a greater ‘influencer’. It is far more simple than that. If you want to be important in the world, find as many ways as you can to serve others. The more lives you touch and help, the more important you will become. Not to mention, you will make the world a better place for us all.

FORGET EYE CANDY, BE SOUL FOOD.

It is Friday the 31st. That means it is both the end of the week, and the end of the month. It is time to reset for both a new week and a new month ahead. Even if you happen upon this post on a day other than the one on which it is released, it is still a great time to take a step back and reset. Here in the United States where I live, summer is about to begin. People are busy working to make their summer body ready for the beach. That is good. Focusing on health and taking care of our appearance can be very beneficial. When we look good, we tend to feel good about ourselves as well.

An even more important thing to focus on is our inner beauty. Yes, having friends or a partner that is eye candy can be fun, but what really makes you attractive is being soul food for someone. I can speak for this as I am lucky to have both. My lady is not only extremely beautiful, and makes me so proud when we are out together, but she is even more than that. When we are home alone we have some of the most fun and silly conversations. We read together. We laugh together. We learn together. Recently, we even began exploring the world together by going on vacations.

It is important to look and feel our best, but why not develop our inner beauty and character? That is where true attraction is. Having friends that nourish our soul and help us believe in ourselves, that is priceless. While you are working on your six pack, or just reducing the size of your keg, why not work on your listening skills? How about developing your compassion while developing your biceps? Working on lifting your backside? That is great, but what about the ability to lift others up?

Ask yourself, would you rather have someone around you who just looks good, or someone who makes you feel good? Someone who is good for your ego or someone who is good for your soul? When I think about people that I would like to spend time with, it is their soul that makes me want to include them in my life. Focus more on being soul food and less on being eye candy.

BUTTERFLY 🦋 LESSON

What an important lesson today is! Talk about the power of attraction, this is a great analogy! Many of us spend our entire lives chasing what we want. We chase the perfect relationship. We chase happiness. We chase inner peace. While pursuing all of these is certainly a noble end, it would be far better to attract them. If you think of the butterfly analogy the picture above offers, I hope you can see how this could transfer to other areas of our life.

Let us take a look at the few we have mentioned. Many people chase the perfect relationship. The perfect relationship is one that loves and learns from the imperfection. Instead of looking high and low for the ‘perfect partner’, it would be wise for us to take an attraction course of action. That would be to get clear on the what we are looking for in a partner, than working on ourselves and our own lives that they would be something that someone would want to be a part of. If you become the best version of yourself, that is what will make you irresistible.

How about chasing happiness? This is something I learned all about in writing my first two books, A Happy Life for Busy People, and Living the Dream. The more you chase happiness, the more it eludes you. Instead, work on creating an environment that allows happiness to grow and flourish. What kind of new age mumbo jumbo is this? It is common sense really. Start a ritual of gratitude. Maybe writing down three things you are grateful for that day and why. Begin each day reciting a positive affirmation that empowers you. Listen to something inspirational on the way to work. Give a genuine compliment to one person each day. Before long, happiness will fill every corner of your life. That does not mean there will not be tough times, but their frequency and duration will continue to diminish.

Chasing inner peace is much the same. If you create circumstances that will provide you inner peace, that peace will have a chance to flourish. It will be different for everyone. Some will set aside, and stick to, twenty minutes of mindful meditation a day. Some will need to drive around blasting their favorite 80’s hard rock. If you are like me, it could be a little bit of both. Reducing factors that cause you stress and increase factors that reduce stress will help you achieve inner peace.

Think of butterflies. You cannot chase them down. They will just fly away. If you focus of creating a beautiful garden the butterflies will love to come to, they will flock to you. How about in your life? What are we chasing when we should be attracting?

A PHILOSOPHY FOR US ALL 🧘‍♀️

This post comes to you on a Monday. This can be one of the toughest days of the week for many. In actuality, every day should be a challenge. Why? We should be challenging ourselves. This idea of never ending improvement is a good one. We can always be healthier, smarter and most importantly, kinder. Tony Robbins has a term he uses called ‘C.A.N.I.’ standing for “Constant and never-ending improvement”. Many of us are living life focused on a achieving or obtaining a certain goal. That is all well and good, but then what?

Whether you are 18 or 80, we should be working to be the best version of ourselves. It not only helps in our relationships with others, but with the world at large. The better version of ourselves we become, the more we can enjoy the world around us. Ask yourself how you can improve today. Even if it is just one percent.

A SIMPLE PATH TO FOLLOW 🛣

It is Sunday, so we will not have you read too much. Plus, the picture above pretty much says it all. We do not need a specific belief or dogma to be good people. We need to simply live with compassion and a respect for other’s human dignity. I would extend that to other living things as well, but that is a subject for a different post. That is not to say you should not follow a faith. If you have one that helps foster these basic characteristics, that is fabulous! If someone else has a different faith that helps then foster these same traits, that is fabulous too!

I think as humans we have a tendency to over complicate things. This includes our faiths. We also seem to like conflict. If someone has different dogma or rituals than us, but that person is a good human, that’s great! We should not care if they worship in a different way or on a different day. The question we need to know is, “Are you a good human?” If the answer is yes, the rest is really none of our business. Treat others how you wish to be treated. Even if they don’t do the same.

WHERE KINDNESS BEGINS 🌻

On the surface, this seems like a no brainer. Yet, how easy is this to understand in the heat of the moment? When a customer is screaming at us for giving them the wrong flavor coffee. When are coworker snaps at us for no particular reason. When our spouse seems to be angry with every little thing we do. It is very difficult to pause and ask ourselves, “What are they hurting from?” It is true that only hurt people, hurt people. Considering this, anyone who hurts us is probably struggling with something themselves.

The first step would be to honestly ask ourselves if we had played any role in why they might be currently treating us harshly. If so, we should apologize and follow that with some sort of corrective action. If not, consider that they may be hurting inside and for some reason be emotionally ignorant on how to constructively express themselves. This certainly does not excuse their behavior, but it may help us approach it with a little more compassion.

Why should we even care that they are struggling, when they may be doing their best to put us in the same state? Understanding this will allow us to take their actions a lot less personally. This means we will feel less stressed and hurt. This can only be a good thing for us.

Another time to remember that we all struggle is when we are tempted to treat someone harshly. The classic example of someone cutting us off in traffic comes to mind. They may have been distracted, lost or just a jerk. What they also be is dealing with the loss of a loved one, a serious negative medical diagnosis, or a million other versions of suffering. Our negative reaction to their seemingly careless action could be the one to put them over the edge. I can’t count the times I have been lost in emotion and may not have been paying close enough attention to whatever it is I am doing. Someone acting harshly towards me at that moment would probably be the least helpful thing that could happen.

One of the best examples I can recall comes from the author, Stephen Covey. He was on a subway, and there was a father who seemed to be letting his children run wild without a care in the world. Finally, unable to take it anymore, Stephen said to the man, “Don’t you think you should do something about your children?” At this moment, I am sure he was feeling frustrated, angry, and perhaps some other unpleasant emotions. We would think rightfully so. The man looked at him with a hollow expression and replied, “You are right. Their mother just passed away, and they are not really sure how to act. In fact, neither am I.” What do you think Stephen felt then? The point is, none of us know what pains someone may be suffering. Be kind. It is always the right decision.  Click the link below to check out my podcast, or just search “Living the Dream with Neil Panosian” on your favorite streaming platforms.

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