Tag: power of thoughts

WHAT LEADS TO POVERTY

How many times have we heard that poverty is a state of mind? It can be quite tempting to snear at that when we are looking at all of the bills we have to pay or a bank balance that is less than we hoped. Still, like any cliche, there is a large dose of truth to this.

Looking at this quote from Seneca above, we will find the key to avoiding poverty is being content. I might swap out that word for the word ‘grateful’ but let us take a look at how this works either way.

The other day I had coffee with my mother. We discussed vacations we had been on and how much fun we had. We could have focused on the fact that we couldn’t swing another vacation presently, how much more our costs to go on vacation or even how we wished we were enjoying our coffee that morning on a tropical beach. How would this thinking have left us feeling? Dismayed? Wanting? Slightly depressed? We could even have felt angry at the rising costs of everything.

This morning I enjoyed coffee at home across from this beautiful lady. We only had a short amount of time to enjoy it as she is working for a market she has coming up. We could have felt sad we didn’t have more time with each other. We could have been bummed that we didn’t have time to make it to a nice coffee shop. She could have been overwhelmed about the market. We could have even thought about how we would rather be on vacation! We would have felt cheated, overwhelmed and generally unhappy.

Luckily, all of us are rather versed in the thinking Seneca advocated above. My mother and I were grateful for the memories we were able to discuss. That meant we had experienced some good times. We were also grateful at the nice messages written on our cups. Margie and I were grateful that in the middle of life’s chaos, we were able to carve out some time to love each other over coffee.

It may sound like a subtle shift to some of you. Let us look at what that shift resulted in. Both situations had people we felt fortunate for what they had. Could it have been more? Sure it always could be. It could always be less. When you focus on what you have verses what you lack, you feel grateful and rather fortunate.

When you stop and think about it, our life is our emotions. How we feel is really how we are. If we have all the money in the world but are angry and depressed all of the time, our life is anger and depression. If we do not have as much as we would like, or even as much as we need in some cases, but we still are able to see the beauty and joy in each moment, our life will be beauty and joy. Life is really what we choose to focus on. Find ways to be content and grateful and you will never feel poor.

UNDERSTAND YOUR POWER

New month, better attitude! So many people underestimate the power they hold in their own lives. This picture above gives us three powerful things to think about. Let us take them one at a time. By the time we are done exploring and examining it, we will have some new tools, strategies and powers we can use to positively impact our lives. Sound good? Let us get to it!

The first one is one of my favorites! The power of our words. This is one area that people overlook or do not think is as powerful as it is. Do not take my word for it. This is backed by science. Dr. Masaru Emoto did some amazing experiments using the effects of words on water. He showed that when water was exposed to words such as hate, anger and the emotions behind it, the molecules became fractured and deformed. However, when exposed to words like love, peace and the emotions behind it, they formed perfect molecules. You may think, “So a guy yelling at water made it deformed. What does that have to do with me?” Your body is roughly 50 to 60% water! If you change the molecules in 60% of your body, how will could that not affect you? This can be a negative cliche’ you recite by force of habit. It can be overreacting when you are ill. Many of us focus on what is wrong and what we lack in our life. You can see, from a scientific standpoint, how this can affect our physical well-being.

Next is the power of our thoughts. According to research, the average individual thinks over 60,000 thoughts a day. Driving in the recent snow storm, it appears I live in a city with many below average people, but I digress. Further research states that over 80% of what we think on a daily basis is negative and 95% of it is repeat thoughts from the day before. Can you imagine hanging around with someone who talks negative 80% of the time? What if that same person says tells you 95% of that same stuff everyday? How long do you think you would hang out with them? Ironically, that is what is occurring in our own heads! Most of this occurs without us paying much attention. What we think will have a great impact on what do and are willing to try. That has a great impact on our life!

Lastly, is the power of our presence. How many of us tolerate being places we are not tolerated or at the very least, not appreciated? This is one I have to remind myself of often. There is something to be said for making compromise for the ones we love, but it should not come at the cost of our own peace.

For this last month of the year, take control of your words, your thoughts and your presence. See what a difference it will make in your own life. See how much power you hold to positively impact your life.

WHAT ARE YOU THINKING ABOUT?

This great stoic quote speaks to a power many of us leave to chance. When was the last time you paid attention to your thoughts? Many people feel their thoughts are something that are thrust upon them. That they come out of nowhere.

Let us take it a step further. When was the last time you decided what you were going to think about? Yes, you really can do this. It can be very beneficial to set aside at the very least, 5 to 10 minutes a day to do some focused thinking. It can be thinking about what you are grateful for. This could change your life faster than you can imagine. It could be thinking about how it will feel when a goal is reached or accomplished.

We think an average of 60,000 thoughts a day. According to research 80% of that is negative. Further research indicates that 95% of our thoughts are repetitive! Think about that. We are thinking 95% of the same things, 80% of which are negative, and wondering why our life is not improving or changing.

By not utilizing focused thinking, I feel we are missing a great opportunity. Setting aside 5 minutes a day, which is less than .5% of your day, can make a huge difference. What if you used those minutes as a chance to practice some positive self-talk? How about picking someone we love and spending 5 minutes thinking about how we can improve our relationship with them? The difference could be life-changing!

Let me know what you will spend your 5 minutes thinking about.