Tag: feeling overwhelmed

HEALING IS POSSIBLE

We all have a good deal of healing to do in our lives. It can be from a break-up, a job loss, a physical ailment, abuse from our childhood, or even the loss of a loved one. No matter what healing we are in the process of going through, it can seem overwhelming. I recall coming back from my open-heart surgery. There were days when it seemed I would never be back to normal. Even 4 months later, I had my first day back to work. I had been feeling like I was normal. Five minutes into my day I was gasping for air and my body felt like I had just run a marathon. I felt so defeated , like I was back to square one.

Emotional healing can be even more complicated. It can seem you take one step forward and two steps back at times. You think you may have got past that break-up and then you hear a song on the radio that puts you into tears. Perhaps you think you have managed to find a way to move forward in life after the loss of a loved one, only to wake up in a sea of sadness. This is often how healing works. It is messy, difficult and at times overwhelming.

What will help us to traverse our healing journey and not become overwhelmed? Many lean on their faith. That is a great idea as it can bring peace in the most trying of times. Some lean on friends and family. That can be helpful as it gives the other party a feeling of value in your life. Just make sure to consider their well-being as well. One way that we can do daily is to celebrate the smallest parts of our healing journey. This can be making it 5 minutes before breaking down when the day before we only made it 3. The more we note the small progress we made healing, the less overwhelming it will seem.

One additional thing to keep in mind is that healing is not always a linear journey. There will be ups and downs. Somedays we must celebrate just making it through the day. Other times it is making it through the hour. Healing is just that way. The last thing we need when we are trying to heal is to put any pressure on ourselves. Give yourself the gift of grace as you work your way to healing.

THE BEST DIET FOR SUCCESS IS EATING ELEPHANT 🐘

Everyone is looking for the next fad diet. Whether that is for more energy, more muscle or less weight. Here is a diet for more success! That’s right. If you want to get ahead at work, in your health or even in your relationships – start eating elephants!

Of course we are not advocating eating actual elephants. I’m rather fond of the big guys. No, it is a reference, as you see in the first picture, to tackling a big problem. Many of us, myself included, will approach a big goal or challenge and become overwhelmed.

This could be getting in shape, getting out of debt, cleaning up your diet, or even cleaning up the house. We see eight million things we have to do and can’t imagine getting them all done. Instead, we should focus on getting one of them done. You couldn’t eat an entire meal at once, nor can you do much of anything all at once.

Our good friends in the wonderful country of Jamaica are struggling to repair the damage brought by hurricane Melissa. The damage can seem overwhelming. I can only imagine what they are facing. The story is the same. The way to build back is clearing one tree at a time. Helping one family at a time and taking one day at a time.

Even if all you are dealing with is a house that looks like it was hit by a hurricane, it is still one step at a time. You got this!

THE BEST PATH IN A WORLD OF HATE

It can seem the world has become a little dark lately. The news, which I do my best to avoid at all costs, has been filled with stories of anger and tragedy. Many people’s hearts are filled with the same. Even if you are not part of the problem, it can be hard not to feel the effects of the problem. What can you do when the world feels like it could collapse at any moment? My answer? Be grateful it hasn’t.

Self-care becomes even more important for the individual when the world seems to need it. More about that in a second. It can feel quite difficult to even leave the house when the outside world seems crazy. First of all, sometimes the answer is not to. Stay home. Have a glass of wine and watch a movie. Maybe craft with your kids while listening to some fun music. Maybe have a glass of wine while crafting with the kids. Just don’t craft the kids with a glass of wine. In all seriousness, sometimes the answer is to shut out the world and enjoy a little peace. While doing so, change your focus to what you do have to be grateful for. This can seem difficult at first, but stick with it. After spending time with self-care and gratitude, you would be amazed at how much the world can change.

Eventually, you may have to leave the house. What then? How can you survive in this crazy world without losing your mind. Remember that self-care and gratitude? Practice it on others. Let others know that they are appreciated and why. If you can practice acts of self-care, like paying for the coffee of the person behind you, then do that. Share smiles and reassurance. Know the overwhelm you feel is often felt like others that may just be hiding it better. Everyone loves to know they are appreciated and everyone loves the gift of genuine kindness. Even the ones who do not appear to. They are the ones who need it the most.

Next time the insanity of the world has you feeling overwhelmed, take time to escape for yourself. When you do go back out into the world, share kindness, compassion and gratitude with as many as you can, as often as you can. This will not only help you feel better, it is also the only way in which we can heal the world.

IT IS TIME TO GO! 🌴

Wow! With all of the political negativity and the fallout that comes after it, I could sure use a vacation. Sadly, this year I do not think that will happen. Currently saving for a car and a wedding, funds can be a little tight. My brain is currently where this picture is. Presently, I am sitting in a coffee shop typing on a lap top. I would much rather be sitting in one of those beach chairs…typing on a lap top.

It will be vital in the coming months that I practice many of the self-care tips I recommend on this site. Usually, one of my secrets to make it through the cold and snow is having a tropical vacation to look forward to. Without that, the grey snow and trees without their leaves could hit a little harder. One axiom that I am always reminding people of, is that there is no law of physics or biology that states your mind and body have to be in the same place at the same time. Even though my body is here at the coffee shop, my mind can be on the beach drinking out of a coconut!

One way in which we can help ourselves along is to use reminders of where we want to be. For me, it could be laying down, closing my eyes and listening to the sound of ocean waves. I even recorded a bit last time Margie and I were in the beautiful Bahamas. I could put some coconut or vanilla scented oil in a diffuser. We even have what I call an oversized green house here in town that I could visit to see some living plants. Trying to convince my lovely fiancé to walk around the house in her swimsuit might not happen, but I can look at pictures of our vacation and be grateful for all the fun we had!

If you find yourself overwhelmed by recent affairs, or just by life in general, it is important to remind yourself of the importance of self-care. Keeping our spirits and energy up with help us greet the world, and those in it, with the best version of ourselves. It will also keep us from being forced to rest when it might be less convenient.