Month: February 2025

A WORLD OF DARKNESS😈

Here is something I have been wanting to write for a while. With my crazy life, the opportunity has not presented itself. The world is a crazy place right now. In a minute everything can be turned upside down. Many people are hurting and afraid. That is why what we do here is so important. Secret2anamazinglife.com is not only an online community, but a place to come that is safe and inspiring. My life purpose is to leave the world a better place than I found it. Right now, that is looking a little challenging. What I can do is exactly what the quote above tells us to do.

In my first book, A Happy Life for Busy People, I share the story of what inspired me to begin writing and working on improving myself. I cannot assume that you have read that book. I must say it is a quick and good read. Even has a nice smiley face on the cover. You can pop over to Amazon and order yourself a copy right after you finish reading this. To catch you up to speed, I am going to give you the super abridged version of my story.

After a very bad day that included losing a job, bad home relations and a host of other things, I decided to go for a walk to clear my head. I checked the mail on the way out the door. In there I found my electric bill as well as envelopes asking for charity donations. I did donate them to the recycle bin. One caught my attention however. On it was the quote above, “Better to light a single candle than curse the darkness.” That single quote has taken me on a journey over two decades in the making. It has allowed me to write and publish 3, going on 4, books. I have done my best to light as many candles and inspire as many people as I can.

It sure can feel good to vent and attack the evil we see in the world. It is good to speak up if you see wrong being done. What is even more powerful is to ‘light that candle’. If you see a group of people being persecuted, make sure you go out of the way to make people of that group feel safe and welcome. Worried about what is happening with our planet and the climate? See what actions you can take to help heal our planet. Remember that cursing the darkness does not make the room any brighter, but lighting even one candle does.

As much as we would like to, we cannot change all the ills the world faces. What we can do is make a big difference in the life of one person at a time. Think if you just inspired, encouraged or reassured one person a day. That would be 365 people in a year. Considering what an inspired, empowered or reassured person can then go on to do, the ripple effect could affect a great many more. If we just yell and complain about how terrible things are, we do not help anyone, least of all ourselves. Light candles my friend. When the world is dark, you must be the light.

DO YOU WANT TO STAND OUT? ðŸ˜®

Do you want to stand out in your relationships? Do you want to be the one that makes those in your life smile? I think we all do. In order to stand out from everyone else, you have to do something different from everyone else. That makes sense doesn’t it? This doesn’t have to be dramatic or expensive to have a powerful impact. I’m going to show you how to become a significant player in the life of those you care about while making them feel amazing. Better yet, I’ll show you how to do this for $2 in just a few minutes. Are you on board?

Today is national “send a friend a greeting card day” Yes, I didn’t know it existed either. “Neil, nobody sends greeting cards anymore!” That is exactly the point! By taking a few minutes to write down some encouraging or inspiring thoughts in a greeting card and making it to a friend, you stand out. How would you feel checking the mail and finding a card from a friend telling you how awesome you are and how grateful they are for you? Pretty good, I would imagine.

It doesn’t have to even be a fancy expensive greeting card. They sell cards at the dollar store. It is the thoughts behind it and the uniqueness of the action. Imagine doing this for one friend a month,or even one friend a week! Think of how much your relationships could improve with the simple power of a greeting card?

A little rusty on writing out greeting cards? Do you want some practice? Our address here at Secret2anamazinglife.com can be found below.

P.O. BOX 333

Oak Creek WI 53154 USA

SOCIAL MEDIA SHOULD…💻

I cannot count the amount of time people tell me, “I’m giving up social media because it is too negative.” When I ask them who chooses what they see in their page, they just stare at me blankly. The truth is that we pick what pages and people, we subscribe to. If yours doesn’t inspire you, then you have the power to change it.

You can even subscribe to our Secret2anamazinglife.com Facebook page! That way you will have at least one inspiring post a day to look forward to. With the advent of AI, even what we talk about shows up on our phones and social media. How scary is it that you are discussing brands of sugar with your cake baking lady and suddenly you are seeing ads for sugar!

We can use all of this to our advantage. Subscribe to pages that inspire you and make you happy. Worried about your phone, and advertisers listening in on you? Then speak only of love and abundance. Not only do those things generally confuse our friends on Madison Avenue, you will also be flooded with more positive things!

IF YOU FAIL, CONGRATULATIONS ðŸŽŠ

I love this quote. All too often, when something does not work out as we planned we can feel so down on ourselves. I’m sure we have all been there. I know I have. You had grand plans and it can feel like not only your plans, but your life, can be headed south.

Still, it would be a great truth to be able to dust ourselves off, look in the mirror, and say, “At least I was brave enough to try!” Most people will do anything to mitigate risk in their life. When you do, yes you do decrease your chances of failure. You also decrease your chances of a great victory. More importantly, you eliminate your chance to learn something new!

Failure, if nothing else, is a great education. We learn what doesn’t work and are one step closer to what does. Be proud of your failure my brave souls. At least you had the courage to try!

FULFILLMENT ACCORDING TO KURT ðŸ‘ˆ

Today’s post will feature a deep dive into an answer to a question I posed to several friends and associates. The question was, “What, in your opinion, makes for a truly fulfilling life?” We will take a deeper dive into the answer featured in today’s post. This includes looking at how we can implement their ideas for fulfillment into our own life. This will allow all of us to wake up with a greater sense of inner peace and joy. If these answers inspire you, and you would like to share your own feeling on what makes life fulfilling, feel free to do so in the comments below. You could be featured in a future post or in my next book! Now let us take a look at today’s answer!

Today’s answer comes from my good friend Kurt. I’m not going to post his entire answer for the sake of brevity. His answer, like many Kurt will give, involves a great deal of thought. He is a man of many talents. Kurt is a DJ, an author and an entrepreneur. If you get a chance, I highly recommend his book, Nothing is Everything, which you can purchase on Amazon. I promise it will be both entertaining as well as enlightening. Just like a conversation with Kurt is.

Now for Kurt’s answer. He put fourth that in order to live a truly fulfilling life, one must remain true to yourself. Although, often with the best of intentions, others will advise you as to what makes a fulfilling life, you still must decide for yourself. While it is true that things such as gratitude, contributions, and appreciation for your friends and family are all good places to start, they are not what works for everyone.

When I asked the question “What makes for a fulfilling life?” I received many different answers. In fact, none of them were the same. They may have shared certain aspects with each other, but they were as unique as the people giving them. Trying to feel fulfillment by using another person’s definition of the word is like trying to put a round peg in a square hole.

Yes, self-care is important. What that means to you can be as different as night and day to your neighbor, your friends, or even your spouse. A personal example is Margie and me. When I need self-care I head to the gym or out in nature for a vigorous hike. These things she views as a stressful chore. Her, on the other hand, likes to go shopping, often at stores filled with people. This is something I find stressful.

Telling Margie to go to the gym to relax just because that works for me makes no more sense than me going to a crowded store to go shopping. That is just fine. It is important to realize that staying true to ourselves, our priorities, and our inner nature are vital to living a fulfilling life.

How about you? Have you ever found yourself trying to be fulfilled in something that someone else, or society, has told you that you should find fulfillment in? Have you discovered that didn’t work for you? Did it make you feel like something might have been wrong with you? It is time to throw that thinking and those feelings of guilt in the trash. Find fulfillment in your own unique way. Your source of fulfillment is as special and individual as you are!

DON’T FORGET TO BE SILLY ðŸ˜‹

We have been doing a great job at looking at what many of the readers of this blog find to be a fulfilling life. We will get back to that and look at some more amazing answers very soon. As the week starts and the pressures begin, I wanted to look at something that may get overlooked or pushed to the back burner. That is what the quote above says. Make sure you do something silly and fun that serves no other purpose than make you happy.

A lot of what gets in the way of this is the guilt people feel when it comes to spending any time in non-productive activities. As important as self-discipline is, it is equally as important to balance that with some fun and relaxation. One of the great ways to do this is to include people in your life who embody this trait. In my own life, I have been blessed with a lovely lady who is the poster child for silly. She is always a great reminder to spend some time on silly fun. It lowers blood pressure, increases feel good hormones in the body and reduces stress.

For those who still feel a little guilty, remember that all of this increases creativity. When you are constantly working hard, you can wind up burnt out. It is so important to let off a little steam and do something that puts a smile on your face. It could be singing and dancing to your favorite song. It could be walking in nature and taking time to look at the birds, trees and listen to the wind. It could be listening to some jokes on your phone or computer. Whatever works for you. Just remember to include moments of this throughout your day.

FULFILLMENT ACCORDING TO MAC ðŸ‘ˆ

Today’s post will feature a deep dive into an answer to a question I posed to several friends and associates. The question was, “What, in your opinion, makes for a truly fulfilling life?” We will take a deeper dive into the answer featured in today’s post. This includes looking at how we can implement their ideas for fulfillment into our own life. This will allow all of us to wake up with a greater sense of inner peace and joy. If these answers inspire you, and you would like to share your own feeling on what makes life fulfilling, feel free to do so in the comments below. You could be featured in a future post or in my next book! Now let us take a look at today’s answer!

Today’s answer comes courtesy of Mac. He is a gentleman I connected with because we both share a health challenge. After much conversation, it appears we share much more. Our general attitude towards life and our place in it is also rather similar. I look forward to getting to know this man better and continue to learn from him. Even our thoughts about a fulfilling life resonate with each other. His answer also reflects who he is as a man. Without further build up, let us look at what Mac thinks makes a fulfilling life.

“To wake up beside my wife each day and to work together throughout the day to accomplish our goals as a team”

Both Mac and I certainly find fulfillment in waking up next to the beautiful lady we love. What this highlights is the importance and benefit of, not only loving and seeing the beauty in your spouse, but finding fulfillment in that. All too often familiarity can breed contempt or at the very least, taking your partner for granted. Mac understands both parties benefit when the appreciation for each other never stops.

There is one more thing you might have missed in Mac’s answer. Although his answer highlights his deep love for the woman in his life, it reflects something even bigger. Throughout my conversations with Mac about my upcoming book, as well as our health, he focus has always been on one thing – gratitude.

Mac has expressed gratitude for many things in his life. This has ranged from a simple cup of great coffee, to walking in nature and feeding squirrels. Two more things we have in common. Mac reminds us that the more we are grateful for things that we do have in our lives, the more fulfillment we experience.

How about you? Are you grateful for waking up next to your spouse, or have you started to take them for granted? Even if you don’t have a spouse, are you grateful for the great many simple pleasures in your life? What are they? Feel free to let us know in the comments below.

FULFILLMENT ACCORDING TO TERRY ðŸ‡ºðŸ‡¸

Today’s post will feature a deep dive into an answer to a question I posed to several friends and associates. The question was, “What, in your opinion, makes for a truly fulfilling life?” We will take a deeper dive into the answer featured in today’s post. This includes looking at how we can implement their ideas for fulfillment into our own life. This will allow all of us to wake up with a greater sense of inner peace and joy. If these answers inspire you, and you would like to share your own feeling on what makes life fulfilling, feel free to do so in the comments below. You could be featured in a future post or in my next book! Now let us take a look at today’s answer!

Today’s answer, or should I say answers, comes from my friend Terry. I have know him since we were 5 years old. Give or take a few years. That speaks to what an amazing man, and friend Terry is. He is retired military and works tirelessly to help those both in the military and those who have left the military. He also works to help his friends, community and the people and causes he cares about. As you can tell, Terry is one amazing gentleman. He posted 2 answers to the question about what makes life fulfilling. They were both so good I want to touch on them both.

“To make anything and everything we do better.”

“Giving back to the people that have given to us. Being retired military it’s about the veterans that gave their lives to have what we have here today.”

The Japanese philosophy of ‘Kaizen’ or never-ending improvement. When thinking of never-ending improvement, many people have expressed to me a sense of futility. If we can never achieve perfection, and our work is never done, what is the point? This is looking about it all wrong. Instead of leading to a feeling of a defeated life, it can actually give us a sense of fulfillment. Terry understands this, let us take a look into it. The fact that no matter how good anything is, it can always be better should excite us. Work really hard to create a marriage that is loving and kind? There is a whole level of intimacy that is waiting for you. Work hard in your career to get where you are? Great! There is still even more to be accomplished and celebrated. The point of this is that every time we improve on our best, we can feel fulfilled. Even the progressive realization of a worthy ideal, which was the definition of success as given by Earl Nightingale, is fulfillment. When we know we are working to be better, that should give us a sense of fulfillment.

As for giving back to those who gave to us, I am sure how you can see where that would give you a sense of fulfillment. As I am typing this, my mother comes to mind. Margie often says she volunteers to help everyone. That is just this side of being accurate. My mother has a lot of beliefs and causes she is passionate about. Instead of just talking or writing a check, she volunteers and takes action. When I get a chance to take her out for dinner or coffee, or even just do something nice for her, I feel a sense of fulfillment. She helps so many others, it is a joy to help her.

Terry gives another great example, that of the military. These are men and women who serve their country. They put their lives on the line to protect people they do not know, and may very well never know. The stress and impact this has on their lives can often be devastating. Knowing this in advance, they still sign up to serve. If you can ever do anything to help veterans, you should. While war is something none of us want to see, those men and women who are sent to battle deserve our utmost respect and compassion.

From first responders, doctors, nurses and volunteers, there are so many amazing souls that we could help. Helping those who serve others is not only fulfilling, it makes the world a much brighter place. It is often those who give the most that ask for the least. How many people do you know that give their all to others only to be suffering in silence. When you have such a giving nature, it can be difficult to admit you might need help, much less ask for it. Be like Terry and find your fulfillment in giving back to those who give to others.

What group of people can you think of that would give you a sense of fulfillment to help? There are so many worthwhile individuals. Please mention yours in the comments below as it will help others find people and groups deserving our attention and assistance. Also, ask yourself how you view a life of never-ending improvement. Can you see how this would lead to a life of fulfillment? Can you see the excitement knowing that no matter how amazing your life is, there is always a way to make it better? Please share in the comments below.