Ok, I know what must be going through your head. “Isn’t the point of an amazing life to reduce the pain and increase the pleasure?” Normally I would agree, however we are talking about using pain to your advantage. That is one of the tricks of living a more productive and positive life. We can’t always control every situation in our life, but we can use it to our advantage. Let me give you an example. Just a few days ago I learned my current position at the post office will end in the first week of September. Now in the past my reaction would have ranged from anger to frustration and even a little worry and sadness. Well my reaction this time surprised even me. When the lady informed me of this situation I greeted it at first with a sense of indifference. I was just collecting information and not taking it personally. Then I thought to myself “ok, I have no control over this situation so what can I find that is good in it?” All this happened in my head without any conscious effort on my part. Ok, so I must confess the next thought was “Holy s#$t this stuff I am preaching works!” Which gave me one good point there. It provided me with proof in my own beliefs.
What about the pain? Great question. Obviously no body likes to feel bad, be it anger, sadness, fear or any negative emotion. In this case I looked at the situation and had to realize in the next two and a half months my future is very uncertain. So what to do with those feelings of uncertainty. Surely that is not something you would want to feel in an amazing life. Hold on, not so fast. In this case I realized perhaps this uncertainty was just a reminder to finish my book I have been falling behind on. Perhaps there is someone out there who could really use it and without the motivation of losing my position I would have not completed it on time? Pain of any nature is a warning symbol. When we touch something hot the pain tells us to move away so we don’t become further injured. The point here is to ask yourself “what is this painful experience trying to tell me and how can I use that to my advantage” This may sound a bit far-fetched for some of you, but trust me it works. What does the anger and hurt you feel after arguing with someone you care about tell you? First it tells you that you do care or it wouldn’t hurt so bad. Also there was some hurt that developed between you two and you have to learn what it is and how to prevent it in the future. It also presents you with a chance to increase your connection with this person by how you address and solve this problem. How about the sadness of the loss of a loved one? In 2010 I had unfortunately had to attend 5 funerals. Four of which were for people under the age of 40. What good can you possibly take away from situations like that? How about the fact that you should let people know you love them while they are here. That you really can question yourself on what is worth being upset about and what legacy you want to leave behind before it is too late. It has been said that in the pain of every failure lies the seed to our greatest opportunity. So next time a painful situation arises in your life, or if you are in the middle of one right now. Ask yourself these two important questions. What is this pain trying to tell me and how can I make it work for me? Have an amazing day filled with passion my friends!!!